Lisa also advised learning how to have “healthy conflict” and taking time to process things.
According to the counsellor, partners need to stay emotionally regulated and present during difficult conversations, listening without seeing it as criticism but “as something that we can learn from”.
She added that while people are schooled on many things, there is little guidance on building a life with someone, and, instead, “all we get is shame and guilt when we do have to ask for help”.
So, Lisa advises that “everybody should educate themselves on how to have relationships” and advises that many “couple probably benefit” from therapy.
For those in need of some support with their relationship, Lisa strongly advises reaching out to a professional.
“There is going to be big things that come up in relationships and we’re all here to help you,” she said.