Jamie Rutter, 32, who works in finance, says clear communication is more important than sticking to a rigid rule.
“As a queer person it can get confusing because you don’t have those traditional expectations around who should pay,” he says.
“My view is that if I ask someone out, I expect to pay. If they ask me out, I’d go in expecting to pay my half.”
Jamie says having become more conscious about his finances in recent years, he’s very upfront on a date about what he can and cannot afford.
“If someone suggested somewhere expensive and it was outside my budget, I’d just be honest and suggest a different place.”