
Elizabeth Gilbert (author of Eat Pray Love) released her controversial new memoir All The Way To The River this week.
Some facts from the book. Warning, these get more fucked up the farther you read. This info is all also available publicly in her many shared excerpts and interviews promoting the book.
- Elizabeth Gilbert and Rayya Elias had been best friends since 2000, before Elizabeth wrote Eat Pray Love
- Rayya was a former cocaine and heroine addict; Elizabeth had gifted Rayya a house in 2013 to allow Rayya to write a memoir called Harley Loco about her addiction and recovery
- When Rayya was diagnosed with pancreatic and liver cancer in 2016 and given six months to live, Elizabeth immediately broke up with her husband (the man she met at the end of Eat Pray Love and whom she wrote about marrying in Committed) to confess her love to Rayya
- Elizabeth did not include details of her divorce from her ex husband in the book in order to protect his privacy
- Rayya and Elizabeth quickly became a couple and had a commitment ceremony
- Elizabeth promised to not leave Rayya’s side throughout her cancer and death journey, promising to follow her “all the way to the river” (inspiring the title of the memoir)
- After Rayya’s cancer diagnosis, Elizabeth enabled Rayya’s relapse back into drug addiction:
- Elizabeth used alcohol, weed, Xanax, Ambien, mushrooms, and MDMA with Rayya
- Elizabeth watched as Rayya abused prescription pain killers
- Elizabeth knowingly gave Rayya money for her to start buying cocaine again
- Elizabeth also personally bought Rayya thousands of dollars of cocaine from local drug dealers
- Elizabeth registered with the city as a drug user to get needles for Rayya
- Elizabeth tied off Rayya’s limbs and held flashlights up to Rayya’s veins to help her shoot up
- In the midst of Rayya’s decline, Elizabeth planned Rayya’s murder, collecting the needed medications and fentanyl patches
- Elizabeth was clear this was in fact a murder attempt and not a compassionate euthanasia, as Rayya did not want to die
- Elizabeth said this of the planned murder: “I’m the nice lady who wrote Eat Pray Love. And I came very close to premeditatedly and cold-bloodedly murdering my partner because she had taken her affection away from me, and because I was extremely tired.”
- Elizabeth stopped her murder plan when Rayya began suspecting her
- After Elizabeth’s murder plan was thwarted, she sat Rayya down and told her that she thought Rayya had lost her soul and her integrity, that Rayya was degrading Elizabeth’s soul, that Elizabeth had accepted Rayya’s death, and that Elizabeth felt she had done all she could and now she wasn’t going to “stick around” for what Rayya had “gotten herself into”
- Elizabeth then kicked Rayya out of their shared home with no warning and went no contact for several weeks, despite knowing that Rayya had nowhere to go
- Rayya, now suddenly homeless and still dying and addicted to the drugs Elizabeth had been buying and administering to her, was forced to move several states away to live with one of her exes who agreed to take her in
- Rayya’s ex quickly got Rayya sober and back under a physician-approved medication plan by administering prescription medications at the right time, locking up meds, and not buying or giving her drugs
- Due to the effects of her illness and withdrawal, Rayya was reportedly distressed during the weeks of Elizabeth’s sudden no contact, feeling confused and disoriented as to why she was living in a new state and why Elizabeth had gone missing
- After Rayya’s ex got her sober, Elizabeth re-established contact, and visited Rayya at her ex’s home until Rayya eventually died a few weeks/months later
- Now, 7 years after Rayya’s death, Elizabeth claims to have achieved her highest level of peace yet through 12-step programs for sex and love addiction
- Part of Elizabeth’s healing for the past few years has involved refusing to give struggling family members or friends any financial support from her multi-million dollar fortune, calling this “financial sobriety”
- Rayya’s sister objected to the memoir in an interview with the New York Times and called it exploitative, saying she didn’t want Rayya’s death to be monetized
- Elizabeth claims she got permission to write the memoir several years after Rayya’s death when Rayya’s dead spirit visited from beyond the grave to commune with Elizabeth in Elizabeth’s own mind
- According to Elizabeth, she could hear Rayya’s spirit in her mind telling her that Rayya “kind of digs” being dead, and that Elizabeth should write all the gory details in a public book because Rayya’s spirit has “no use for dignity” since she’s dead
- In this short telepathic communion, Rayya’s spirit also apparently called Elizabeth “beautiful” three times, made cancer jokes, and predicted that Elizabeth was going to become enlightened
- Elizabeth’s ultimate view on what happened: “Rayya is my most beautiful story”
Posted by lunarcrimes
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what the fuck did I just read?!
Look, I get toxic yuri or whatever but this is a bit. Excessive.
On top of being toxic as hell, I just can’t get behind anyone self-important enough to write more than one memoir. (And even then, for most people, that’s still too much.)
Every bullet point leads to yet another “what in the fuck” from me. Imagine being so bold about something like enabling a partner’s addiction and trying to kill them.
Pardon me what
look, institutions are historically bad but this is the kind of person that probably needs to be in one!!!
This is all horrific and terrible but if you had done this, and the person had now passed on and couldn’t speak out, why the FUCK would you tell anyone about it??
I read the column she published about this and just that was *a lot.* A whole book is just…
Also, every conversation was very therapy speak that also made it very tedious.
….im sorry, what?!?
Imagine being her editor reading all this, like how do you answer a “how was work?” question if *this* was work
…. What?
…Oh wow, that’s horrific. This woman sounds horribly abusive and self-absorbed.
The towering narcissism to write this all down in an attempt to profit off it (including the shock factor, which will sell books) and ignore your deceased partner/victim’s loved one in favor of getting permission from their ‘spirit’ using ‘telepathy,’ AKA Elizabeth giving herself permission to profit off the terrible shit she did to this now-dead woman. Saying she was going to become enlightened lol, OK boo.
Wow. I am speechless
I would love to see them try to make a feel good movie out of this one
Oh
… can you just admit and publish your attempted murder with no consequences? This is some rich, white lady privilege.
What type of personality disorder does she have? This is not okay.
These actions are horrific, but to romanticize and turn them into a self-glorifying tale of enlightenment for public consumption is a new level of narcissism.
Literally wtf. Girl should be in prison
I’m so sorry, but how the fuck did this even get approved for publication? This is deranged
what is with wealthy white women claiming they interacted with someone’s spirit in order to justify exploiting them after death
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She’s bringing shame to the good name Elizabeth (I say this as one myself)
This is absolutely bonkers.
Also though if I were dying I might do lots of drugs too.
But I suspected E. Gilbert was a bit nuts, hunch confirmed.
huh
did she really need to publish that
At the start I’m like: yeah if I had six months left you can bet your ass I’d get more ****ed up than ever. Eat, drink, and be merry for tomorrow….
Then I read more and I’m like: WTF dude? You loco
So timely bc I’m currently watching a video about this and I just can’t believe a single thing I’m hearing.
excuse me what
as a former addict (cocaine and pills) this story is so fucking upsetting omg
“i planned to murder you bc i was just SO tired” is crazy
If you admit that you were planning to kill someone, can law enforcement get involved? Also how much of a narcissist fuck do you have to be to 1. Do something like this 2. Openly admit it in a book???
May this kind of person never find me or any of you
Excuse me?!

This is pure unmitigated evil. How can someone walk on this earth and pretend to be human while doing this. I have no words. I hope this nasty wretch gets everything she deserves in life and in the next.

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Now Ms Elizabeth………
this is the kind of thing you keep in the drafts
*Puke Curse Hate*
I always thought Elizabeth’s relationship with Rayya felt…off. Like she was doing it for the content. She knew Rayya had feelings for her for a long time, and decided to begin a relationship only after the terminal diagnosis.
It just felt like she got into the relationship because she knew that the relationship had an expiration date. Like this would be her “tragic lesbian love story” arch. The fact that she tried to kill her only strengthens this vibe I got from the whole thing.
She also ended up getting with Rayya’s best friend (a man) after Rayya died, which also felt kinda gross.
Anyway, I always thought she was a bit of a narcissist, now I think she’s a psychopath.
HIGHLY RECOMMEND Jia Tolentino’s review (takedown?) of the book in the New Yorker. It is *chef’s kiss,* containing gems such as:
“Perhaps there is a direct metaphysical connection between Christmas-tree farms and main-character syndrome: like Taylor Swift, Elizabeth Gilbert grew up amid fields of fir and pine…”
and
“But Gilbert’s most pervasive influence can be found online, in the breathless having-just-finally-realized tone that dizzying numbers of women who narrate their lives on the internet have adopted. On social media, many of the most chaotic and emotionally lawless people you’ve ever known are posting on a regular basis about having at long last achieved inner peace.”
[https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2025/09/01/all-the-way-to-the-river-love-loss-and-liberation-elizabeth-gilbert-book-review](https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2025/09/01/all-the-way-to-the-river-love-loss-and-liberation-elizabeth-gilbert-book-review)
i was gonna make a joke about how being tired doesn’t immediately make me jump to murder, but then i got to the Visit From My Ex’s Dead Spirit reveal and figured we had bigger fish to fry