Francesca Scorsese via TikTok: “Reminder to tell your parents you love them because one day you will have to take care of them the way they once took care of you.”
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Francesca Scorsese via TikTok: “Reminder to tell your parents you love them because one day you will have to take care of them the way they once took care of you.”
Posted by voguediaries
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Why do I love her? It feels like this isn’t something you share, but at the same time, it conveys so much love and care.
This is both heartwarming and heartbreaking in equal measure.
it’s lovely that she cares for her and very sad she has to but my mother would absolutely murder me if I posted a video of her struggling like this for the world to see
Her mother can’t consent to this due to her cognitive decline. It’s not right.
It’s the hardest thing to do, but you just gotta remember them for who they were, and that regardless, they are still your parents.
There’s always something so demeaning/dehumanizing about people who post those struggling on social media to position themselves as a white knight. It’s a good message and sentiment, but we didn’t need to see this moment on social media. It reminds me of those nurses who talk to elderly in a baby voice or like they are dogs or something. It’s sad how celebrities and influencers have the first instinct to make content out of everything.
Doesn’t really make sense. More like, reminder to parents to treat your kids with respect because you may need them to care for you later
I am so uncomfortable with this. A photo is one thing but we should have more care for the dignity of our most vulnerable. Kids, the very ill, the elderly, and other people with reduced capacity to make decisions for themselves should have their privacy respected. I don’t think any of us would want a video of us at our most vulnerable posted so I don’t know why it’s considered fine to do this. I guess it’s heartwarming but it feels exploitative to me. Maybe there’s context that I’m not aware of?
I don’t know Fran, maybe also remember to not post highly personal material just to get brownie points from the internet? It looks like this lady probably doesn’t even have the cognitive faculties to consent to her illness being broadcast to millions of random people on social media.
now I need to remember tell my kids please don’t post videos of me if/when you have to spoon feed me and shit. 🙁 this is bumming me out. her mother’s hand reminds me of my mom’s claw hand.
I hope my kids are kind enough to never do this to me when I get older. I have no desire to be used as a social media prop like this.
Yeah don’t like this. Props to her for taking care of her mother, but posting this unless her mother consented is not great
I’m not surprised to see criticism in the comments and I think fair points have been raised. However I think there a societal problem with the intense discomfort with seeing advanced illness, something that is too often hidden away out of embarrassment. Our disabled and infirm deserve to have a public presence alongside their loved ones. I think there are positives to someone with a high profile posting the often isolating reality of so many people’s lives and framing it in a positive way.
My father died of Parkinson’s. There were things towards the end that I’m sure made other people uncomfortable to see when we brought him out in public, but had happened so gradually in our eyes, it didn’t occur to us that anyone should have a complex reaction to food spillages, hand feeding, poor mobility, etc. He was our dad and we were just having a nice day out. In terms of consent, I have no clue as to Helen’s level of lucidity, but I know my father was mentally a lot sharper at times than his outward appearance suggested. And it’s not like she’s forcing her mother into a dance or something. They’re just having lunch.
I suspect for Francesca, a very young lady who spends a lot of time creating social media content involving her family, this is just a happy video of her and her mother.
I totally get why people feel this should be private…but at the same time, Western society mostly ignores the realities of aging and this kind of stuff IS usually kept behind closed doors, literally…as in the doors of care homes. Maybe more people do need to be exposed to this instead of continuing to deny the realities of many an aging person and their caregivers. It’s a hard and forgotten truth that aging often brings deeply challenging circumstances…
“One day you will have to take care of them the way they once took care of you” tbh I don’t really feel like screaming and throwing things that often so I think I’ll pass.
This looks like what happens when people in their 50s have a baby.
Didn’t she die like 2 years ago? Kind of ghoulish to post this for some clout.
She could have said all of this without posting a video of her ailing parent. It would have had the same effect.
No dignity for her mother is disturbing.
This feels very exploitive.