Sorry divija ..but this is the first time I disagree with you ….some people in Indian weddings do tend to outshine the bride and they do it intentionally
But what if people are toxic and just want to appear more in pics and stand too close to the bride and groom ,which will cause confusion ahout who is the bride..and make the bride kinda sad on her wedding even if its not a competition ❤i know everyone can have their varied opinions, this was mine i am 14 tho..love ur videos
Disagree. Many people do try to look like the main character. We should keep in mind that the bride or the groom must feel the main character energy. Its their special day.
Off topic, but I need to adress something. My mom was helping me with my math exam like the preparation and I accidentally wrote in a handwriting size that was only slightly smaller and she slapped me. And when I cried, she got annoyed and then LAUGHED. Is this normal behaviour?
I get your point we should stop making weddings a competition I have also seen elderly people compare their children's skin tone or how they had their wedding back in their day too especially to women though
Many people want to dress up best on the special day of their close people, not necessarily to outshine them but to express how happy and excited they are on their loved one's special day.. And even if they want to outshine, so what! The bride will be the actual main character regardless of anything.. People who only think negatively about everyone and presume everything are the actual jealous and negative people here…
I also disagree with this. Red is something which we cannot wear for the wedding, but had it been a cocktail or a reception party then yes it’s acceptable. Similarly we cannot wear black during weddings as it’s auspicious and can bring bad luck.
At my cousin's roka party, I wore my old evening gown and had my make up done (mild makeup) from a salon. We both are the same age. At the party she whispered in my ear "don't try to steal my thunder". I was quite shocked 😐😐. She made numerous comments like that through out. I made an excuse and returned home and cried for hours. From that day onwards we don't have the same relation, it's like there is a wall between us. I try to avoid being near to her and totally avoid our cousins gathering when she is around. 🤷🏻♀️
Totally depends on different cultures and My masi got married and my cousin was married just a year earlier and she wore her wedding lhenga to my masi's wedding while my masi was wearing a punjabi suit.Nobody cared or thought she was out shinning the bride even the bride did not think so.Even everybody told my masi to wear her wedding suit to other people's weddings if she wants as it would be usless ones the trend gos and it will start to look outdated.
But males most of the time don't even wear sherwani , they wear pant suit, and yes I have seen some grown up women do compete with each other, and I feel it's not right I mean there's a girl code.
In bengali weddings most married women wear their red benarasi saree that they had wear in their own wedding from times immemorial and never heard any Bengalis complaining "outshine the bride". I don't understand this stupid concept in other cultures of outshining the bride.
I disagree. It’s basic human decency to respect the bride and groom it’s their special day. They deserve to be in the spotlight, and there’s no need for anyone else to outshine them. It’s simply a matter of showing respect to the couple.
Idkkk dude likeeeeee i kinda dont know u wouldnt mind if someone wear there shadi ka lenga to ur wedding like the exact same even down to jewelery and makeup tooo
Who said it's a beauty competition? It's just a way to make sure the bride and groom feel the main character and if someone tries to overshadow them by anything, isn't it bad?
Not gonna agree to this ever It's someone's special day Let them have their day and be the main character And ya if a man wears a dress similar to the groom ,he will be made fun of too
I agree …regardless so many ppl disagreeing Yeah i know many people try to outshine the bride but obv they will not be sitting in the customs and rituals no one's gonna treat them like bride and groom even they wear 10 kg lehenga all the accessories everyone knows who's the bride and groom are and even if they wear simple still they will be treated and celebrated only no matter how hard ppl try to dress like bride n groom and how hard they try to seek attention although i dont support dressing heavily like a bride still bride n groom remain bride n groom only…
Disagree beacuse if a man wear sherwani like the groom then we can say that the man is outshining the groom ….. its not about the wearing shining clothes its about looking the same way as the main character which is ofcourse the bride and groom on their wedding. Btw love your content ❤️
Disagree! It's not about the men or women here! Most men aren't trying to outshine they barely washed their faces. But there's are people trying to be the centre of attention, but it's the couples special day, and they should be the main characters. People should dress nicely, sure it means they care about the ceremony but but they should dress subtley!
I don't think this is an Indian concept? Atleast it's not a malayali one. I have never heard that sentence ever. But western countries have this idea that no one else can wear white as to respect the bride. I haven't heard anyone say this for men though
Totally agree. No one can outshine the bride. She's getting MARRIED, a mere dress isn't gonna make her a main character, she IS ONE. It's just a stupid concept to pit women against each other and it's so embedded in our psyche that we don't see what's wrong with it. I'm from Pakistan and this has never been an issue before internet. It's always been a western concept
I disagree It's her day if she want to look and feel the best amongst all then let her do it without dressing exactly like the bride and ruin her big day
Exactly it isn't competition. It is marriage. Bride will be bride no one going to replace her position. But society fall for look first especially of women like how she is simple wedding simply no makeup, too much makeup, bla bla
I don't understand why women love lehengas, especially you, awkwardgoat3. You claim to be a feminist, but it doesn't make sense to wear an 11–14kg lehenga to someone’s wedding. You can’t even carry your own lehenga ,you’re exhausted within half an hour even you don’t dance and going to the bathroom becomes a literal war between you and your clothes.
Ultimately, you need someone to assist you, and you leaving with your husband. Indirectly, you become dependent on him because of this patriarchal dress sense. I’ve seen many instances where women wear something heavy just to look "traditional," only to end up exhausted, requiring a teenager or someone else to help them move.
Looking "good" at a wedding shouldn't be like being an alcoholic who is too drunk to enjoy the party. If someone wants to actually enjoy a wedding, they should wear lightweight clothes and good dressing sense.
Why don't we try to look better than the bride and groom? Because it's their special day, and no one should ruin it by suffering in a 14kg outfit. Even men don't really want to wear heavy sherwanis. The roles of the bride and groom are to be silent, move slowly, and pass small smiles so they don't deplete their energy like everyone else.
Disagree. It is the bride's day and she should be centre of attention and she should be the main character and nobody should steal that from her. And i dont think this whole outshining the bride concept is applicable in india cause of the bride's grand outfit. It is in the western culture cause the dress is simple and it is pretty easy to look the same as the bride even if u just wear white
Disagreeing on this with you… It's not a Beauty competition… But it's their special day they must feel the main character vibes! It's not about pitting women. It's just about letting them feel they are the main character. It's their biggest day!
I disagree. I think for one function, one day, when its about someone else we can wear a different color. Supporting the bride and letting her have her moment is also feminism btw.
I do care if a Male guest is wearing smth “shinier” than the groom, it’s not always about gender. It’s just common decency and etiquette. It’s somebody else moment. They should have it the best.
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Sorry divija ..but this is the first time I disagree with you ….some people in Indian weddings do tend to outshine the bride and they do it intentionally
FINLLY SOMEONE WHO CALLED IT OUTT!!!🙌
I wanna like this video but I can't cuz there r 68 likes 😅
But what if people are toxic and just want to appear more in pics and stand too close to the bride and groom ,which will cause confusion ahout who is the bride..and make the bride kinda sad on her wedding even if its not a competition ❤i know everyone can have their varied opinions, this was mine i am 14 tho..love ur videos
Disagree.
Many people do try to look like the main character.
We should keep in mind that the bride or the groom must feel the main character energy. Its their special day.
Its not about man or woman.
Disagreeing for the very first time
Because its just one colour that we tryna avoid.And we can always wear colours other than red .
!!! Also many times sister in laws and sisters of the groom wear their wedding lehngas and that's quite distrubing!!!
So yeah even tho not a competition.. some things can be and should be still kept in mind.
Some idiots finally choose an idiotic topic to show their idiotic opinions.
I agree with you ❤
Off topic, but I need to adress something.
My mom was helping me with my math exam like the preparation and I accidentally wrote in a handwriting size that was only slightly smaller and she slapped me. And when I cried, she got annoyed and then LAUGHED.
Is this normal behaviour?
I hope you get invited to Taylor Swift's wedding 💗❤
I get your point we should stop making weddings a competition I have also seen elderly people compare their children's skin tone or how they had their wedding back in their day too especially to women though
Many people want to dress up best on the special day of their close people, not necessarily to outshine them but to express how happy and excited they are on their loved one's special day.. And even if they want to outshine, so what! The bride will be the actual main character regardless of anything.. People who only think negatively about everyone and presume everything are the actual jealous and negative people here…
I also disagree with this.
Red is something which we cannot wear for the wedding, but had it been a cocktail or a reception party then yes it’s acceptable.
Similarly we cannot wear black during weddings as it’s auspicious and can bring bad luck.
At my cousin's roka party, I wore my old evening gown and had my make up done (mild makeup) from a salon. We both are the same age. At the party she whispered in my ear "don't try to steal my thunder". I was quite shocked 😐😐. She made numerous comments like that through out. I made an excuse and returned home and cried for hours. From that day onwards we don't have the same relation, it's like there is a wall between us. I try to avoid being near to her and totally avoid our cousins gathering when she is around. 🤷🏻♀️
Totally depends on different cultures and My masi got married and my cousin was married just a year earlier and she wore her wedding lhenga to my masi's wedding while my masi was wearing a punjabi suit.Nobody cared or thought she was out shinning the bride even the bride did not think so.Even everybody told my masi to wear her wedding suit to other people's weddings if she wants as it would be usless ones the trend gos and it will start to look outdated.
But males most of the time don't even wear sherwani , they wear pant suit, and yes I have seen some grown up women do compete with each other, and I feel it's not right I mean there's a girl code.
No actually you can’t wear an a/c remote to Taylor swifts wedding ❤
In bengali weddings most married women wear their red benarasi saree that they had wear in their own wedding from times immemorial and never heard any Bengalis complaining "outshine the bride". I don't understand this stupid concept in other cultures of outshining the bride.
No one can look better than Taylor at her wedding tho 🤭🫶🏻
But you still shouldn't wear clothes that are bridal when attending someone else's wedding. It's not polite
I disagree. It’s basic human decency to respect the bride and groom it’s their special day. They deserve to be in the spotlight, and there’s no need for anyone else to outshine them. It’s simply a matter of showing respect to the couple.
first time i disagree with her lol
Idkkk dude likeeeeee i kinda dont know u wouldnt mind if someone wear there shadi ka lenga to ur wedding like the exact same even down to jewelery and makeup tooo
Who said it's a beauty competition?
It's just a way to make sure the bride and groom feel the main character and if someone tries to overshadow them by anything, isn't it bad?
It's the first time I slightly disagree!
Divija i have tried a lot of times to justify ur takes or think about it but ur just dumb.have brainoliya everyday after dinner…will help u 🙂
Not gonna agree to this ever
It's someone's special day
Let them have their day and be the main character
And ya if a man wears a dress similar to the groom ,he will be made fun of too
Disagreeing for the very first time
I agree …regardless so many ppl disagreeing
Yeah i know many people try to outshine the bride but obv they will not be sitting in the customs and rituals no one's gonna treat them like bride and groom even they wear 10 kg lehenga all the accessories everyone knows who's the bride and groom are and even if they wear simple still they will be treated and celebrated only no matter how hard ppl try to dress like bride n groom and how hard they try to seek attention although i dont support dressing heavily like a bride still bride n groom remain bride n groom only…
Disagree beacuse if a man wear sherwani like the groom then we can say that the man is outshining the groom ….. its not about the wearing shining clothes its about looking the same way as the main character which is ofcourse the bride and groom on their wedding.
Btw love your content ❤️
Disagree!
It's not about the men or women here!
Most men aren't trying to outshine they barely washed their faces.
But there's are people trying to be the centre of attention, but it's the couples special day, and they should be the main characters. People should dress nicely, sure it means they care about the ceremony but but they should dress subtley!
I don't think this is an Indian concept? Atleast it's not a malayali one. I have never heard that sentence ever. But western countries have this idea that no one else can wear white as to respect the bride. I haven't heard anyone say this for men though
Totally agree. No one can outshine the bride. She's getting MARRIED, a mere dress isn't gonna make her a main character, she IS ONE. It's just a stupid concept to pit women against each other and it's so embedded in our psyche that we don't see what's wrong with it. I'm from Pakistan and this has never been an issue before internet. It's always been a western concept
I disagree
It's her day if she want to look and feel the best amongst all then let her do it without dressing exactly like the bride and ruin her big day
Is no one gonna talk about taylor swift's wedding 😭
Agreed 💯
Exactly it isn't competition. It is marriage. Bride will be bride no one going to replace her position. But society fall for look first especially of women like how she is simple wedding simply no makeup, too much makeup, bla bla
I don't understand why women love lehengas, especially you, awkwardgoat3. You claim to be a feminist, but it doesn't make sense to wear an 11–14kg lehenga to someone’s wedding. You can’t even carry your own lehenga ,you’re exhausted within half an hour even you don’t dance and going to the bathroom becomes a literal war between you and your clothes.
Ultimately, you need someone to assist you, and you leaving with your husband. Indirectly, you become dependent on him because of this patriarchal dress sense. I’ve seen many instances where women wear something heavy just to look "traditional," only to end up exhausted, requiring a teenager or someone else to help them move.
Looking "good" at a wedding shouldn't be like being an alcoholic who is too drunk to enjoy the party. If someone wants to actually enjoy a wedding, they should wear lightweight clothes and good dressing sense.
Why don't we try to look better than the bride and groom? Because it's their special day, and no one should ruin it by suffering in a 14kg outfit. Even men don't really want to wear heavy sherwanis. The roles of the bride and groom are to be silent, move slowly, and pass small smiles so they don't deplete their energy like everyone else.
The least we can do is avoid the color red and ultra heavy jwellery.
Agreed❤
Disagree. It is the bride's day and she should be centre of attention and she should be the main character and nobody should steal that from her. And i dont think this whole outshining the bride concept is applicable in india cause of the bride's grand outfit. It is in the western culture cause the dress is simple and it is pretty easy to look the same as the bride even if u just wear white
m to bara pehnunga
Disagreeing on this with you…
It's not a Beauty competition… But it's their special day they must feel the main character vibes!
It's not about pitting women.
It's just about letting them feel they are the main character.
It's their biggest day!
I disagree. I think for one function, one day, when its about someone else we can wear a different color. Supporting the bride and letting her have her moment is also feminism btw.
I have seen women wearing their own wedding lehengas in someone's else…that's…just a little weird tho
I do care if a Male guest is wearing smth “shinier” than the groom, it’s not always about gender. It’s just common decency and etiquette. It’s somebody else moment. They should have it the best.