Zendaya on the parasocial relationship that the public has with her & Tom Holland: “There is a level of parasocial investment in my personal relationship — I am aware that I am a public person and so is he — but in a lot of ways I also am a very private person”
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go girl, give us nothing (encouragingly)
Good. I have no desire to know their relationship, or any other celeb relationship. If they’re happy, great. I really honestly just want good films/songs/entertainment, and for people to have healthy boundaries.
Also, I love what she and her stylist have been doing for years. It’s been wonderful to see her enjoy the red carpet.
I love how they’re handling their relationship publicly, there are things we don’t need to know. And I don’t know if it’s just because her and Tom are such likable people, that people naturally choose to respect their privacy and just want to root for them but even I was annoyed when people kept talking about them when they got engaged, like okay clearly they aren’t going to address it, so let it go 😅
I’m a big fan of both and anytime I think of the media overstepping, I remember reading Kerry Washington’s book where she mentions the media literally going to find her children’s birth certificate and I was so grossed out by it. So if they choose to not acknowledge anything, I’m so happy they’re doing it that way and we will for sure never see their children and I hope by then the media has learned to not try lol
Sounds like she treats her engagement/marriage as the extremely intimate, exciting, bigger than the world, phenomena that it actually is.
Compared to the norm which is to wear these things like some sort of vanity prize/accomplishment.
Finding your person is one of the most fulfilling, enriching, and even confusing things life has to offer.
I worked at a gas station and I hated being recognized by regulars when off work, Zendaya’s got that scaled up by a million, shit must be annoying.
Celebrities deserve to have privacy.
There are some celebs who actively use their relationship as promo and PR. I don’t think that’s the case with them. They probably get a lot more attention because visually they’re a cute couple (love a tall woman/short man dynamic), and play love interests in a huge franchise.
Funnily enough I feel like Zendaya and Rob have both managed to successfully maintain the privacy of their relationship but in wildly different styles. Zendaya I think has reached the perfect balance between acknowledging her relationship, and talking about Tom in a loving way publicly but not revealing much.
And Rob just takes up all his interviews time telling unhinged lies so theres no time for intruding questions 😂😂
I love them both hahah
This woman is such a consummate professional.
I think they’ve struck an unusually healthy balance, tbh. Everyone loves them, and Zendaya especially is so often in the public eye, and yet the public really know and have access to very little about them.
It’s so so wonderful to see.
i find them really cute and smile every time i see their lil moments but legit the less i know about them the more i like them. i would hate to be a fly in their home. thats too much investment and i dont have the emotional bandwidth to care so much about other people’s relationships that i would never meet or engage with in a personal basis.
She’s right, Privacy matters like us regular folks
honestly I love Tomdaya together, but I also like they are private. I feel like the more information people know the more people get emotionally invested. So its good to have a balance of that.
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Translation: Stay out of that lady’s business before she decide to go full Beyoncé and we won’t hear a PEEP from her until she’s promoting her next project. 😂🫶🏽
Actors are public figures, and we happen to see their work. But I absolutely don’t feel like myself or anyone is entitled to their private lives. And Zendaya has made it clear multiple times that she doesn’t really feel the need/want to talk about intimate details. I know it’s the job of a lot of interviewers to get that “one clip” where they get something juicy. But at the same time, she’s there to promote a movie. Not her private life. I think it’s one thing if it’s say a reality star. Their life IS their job. But I wish people would just move on and talk about the movie.
No hate, but I find people online annoying about them sometimes. I don’t know how she handles it, lol.
I love them as a couple but part of that is bc they are so private. They don’t do anything for the public, they aren’t selling their wedding photos to a magazine, etc.
Also this interview is great and I love how this interviewer approached questions like these
I feel like we know enough, no? They’re together. They’re happy. What do people want? A weekly vlog?
@ the “if they break up, i won’t believe in love” folks…
What was the question that Zendaya is answering? The interviewer seems really respectful and grounded in her response to Zendaya. This feels like a safe space interview lol
This is honest and needed to be said, but she said it in a nice and classy way. She truly is a queen.
I love her bob era
It’s refreshing to see actors being private.
I usually agree with her but why would the designer mention something about the wedding if you wanted it to be private. Because I feel like the only reason he would say something is because they gave the okay.
I know she’s talking about me and she’s right but also this just makes me love her more. Sorry Z!
I’m bored 🥱
Tbh not fully confirming whether she has gotten married has probably created more headlines than if they just had their spokespeople to announce it. I worry about her getting online backlash because i’ve seen people saying she wanted the added pr for her wedding themed film.
She seems like a really cool person. Great perspective.
I think it’s reasonable to have the same level of investment into a celebrity relationship as any other stranger I might see out in public: like seeing a stranger on a really good first date or seeing someone breaking up in public. In one of those scenarios I’m happy for them, in the other I feel bad for them. In the end we’re all strangers and I’m going to keep going on about my business.
Honestly it’s amazing how well balanced they have kept their relationship considering their combine level of fame
They aren’t so private that is feels like they’re hiding but they’re private enough that none of us know anything besides that they’re together and seem happy which is really all that they need to let people know
The less we know the better and it’s wonderful that she understands that because I respect it!
It seems she has good people around her and that is so important to help navigate such an intrusive industry.
i don’t really feel like entertainers are public figures at all… but, zendaya seems like a very mature person.