In 2016, at the behest of his banker, David Sedaris and his longtime boyfriend, Hugh Hamrick, entered the county courthouse in Beaufort, North Carolina, and married in secret.Ā
The pair were wearing button-downs and slacks and sealed their vows with a handshake. Then they kept the nuptials privateāso private that, until now, Sedarisās best friends and family were in the dark about the union. āAside from saving money, all I cared about was keeping my marriage a secret,ā Sedaris writes.
Read his explanation: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2026/04/20/why-i-wanted-to-keep-my-marriage-a-secret
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I love this quirky little dude from the bottom of my heart. This is about the least shocking thing Iāve ever learned about him.
Congrats. Heās the best.
Very on brand.
If it were me, this is something I would reveal on April Fool’s day and leave people confused š
Happy for him and his husband! š
this is the type of mystery i aspire to
Awe!! Thatās amazing and also very much him. Iām happy for him and his husband!
All very cool and weird that not even his sister would know. Sorry.
Donāt bury the lede ā he made his sisters sign a contract none of them would get married when they were all kids, either! š
Honestly Iām still not over his exuberant essay where he was proud of getting his friend to mask and then immediately infecting her with COVID
āHugh and I donāt celebrate our anniversary, and Iād be at a complete loss if asked to give the month, much less the date. The season I recall, but nothing else.ā I also got married in 2016 and given this quote, I choose to believe we have the same anniversary. I will toast to us AND them on our 10th!
I think he is more of a “humorist” or just “writer” as he doesnt do stand-up, but he does so many appearances and readings “humorist” always seemed pretty accurate. That is great for he and Hugh.
So is he just like EXTREMELY private ?
Heās been with his partner for decades, I assumed they were married by this point. I used to read his work in the 2000s and his partner Hugh would pop up in his stories.
I find this funny because heās always seemed open sharing about his family and loved ones and this was one he donāt write about?
A secret marriage reveal from the guy that wrote ānakedā, āme talk pretty one dayā, āsantaland diariesā and ādress your family in corduroy and denimā feels kind of on brand. I hope their relationship is happy and healthy.
I love Davidās work! He and Hugh have been together forever, and I just now realized Iād assumed theyād been married this whole time. May they have many more happy years together!
This kind of seems like a formality – heās been with his partner for ages and talks about him in great detail.
Sealing your vows with a handshake is such a Captain Holt-coded thing to do
The tone of his writing is so weird. I knew Amy was weird but, huh
David Sedaris spoke at a conference I was at and told me I was the best intern he had ever seen. He signed my book āyou make an $8 dress look like a $400 dressā because of course I had to tell him it was a target clearance find.
Crumpet!
iāve read all of his books and i can safely say heās one of the top 5 funniest people alive
The breathing burrito
Iāve been reading his books for decades now and he mentions his now husband and they seem like they have a hilarious relationship so Iām happy for both of them. Thereās a particularly funny story about his husband refusing to tell him what a dingo was (because he had no idea what even kind of animal it was) until they got to the Australian zoo thatās pretty funny
I had no idea him and Amy Sedaris were brother and sister but theyāre both hilarious so Iām not entirely surprised
I love his books so much but this is the least surprising thing from this man š I assumed they got married YEARS ago!
I adore him
I used to go to his book signings all the time before he was selling out auditoriums. He asked me if I had braces growing up and then told me my dental work was fantastic. He signed my book talking about my teeth.
Another time I saw him was when he and Hugh were moving to France and he was just giving away the garbage from their house. I got a steak shaped car freshener that smelled like barbecue.
I’d see Amy at them in amazing dresses and always try to guess if someone there was Hugh