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[Music] welcome back shig Gators are we going to talk about anxiety today God Kendall Jenner sweet Jesus this woman we’re going to talk about Kendall Jenner’s new Vogue um interview which seems to be centered around her one of her two favorite topics actually don’t worry she brings them both up tequila which as I have stated and will state forever I have never in my entire life seen or heard of another human being isn’t her drinking I’ve never heard of anyone drinking her tequila but like okay cool whatever and of course her F her most very favorite topic anxiety I mean I have been watching the Kardashians fairly religiously for it’s actually embarrassing when you add up it’s embarrassing so I just let’s just leave it there I’ve been watching them religiously and you know if you you can come up with some adjectives about Courtney Kim Chloe Kylie were like huh ah like for her personality but let’s go with like Glam or I don’t know Kendall the only word that has ever come to mind with her is anxious sour kind of ungrateful boring and girl you can’t say it’s a bad edit because it’s literally your mom who’s doing the edits so if she doesn’t have your back you know honestly if that is the case if your mom is editing you to make you look bad on her own TV show I would be anxious too so I should stop this video right here because suddenly I am on team Kendall for why you would just be a ball of anxiety if your mom was like truly your greatest AR Nemesis like girl [ __ ] but let’s say that that’s not the case I think we can all agree that Kendall’s big personality trait is her anxiety so guess what she’s talking about yep here we go again so we’re going to break down what she’s talking about am I giving her an unfair edit do you appreciate that even someone in her incredibly gilded life is dealing with just the nameless dread of anxiety or you like [ __ ] read the room think about it first we’re going to take a quick look at today’s sponsor you are special you are one of 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May Vary not offered in every state medications prescribed only if clinically required and results May Vary thank you to nxra sponsoring this this video now let’s get back to the gossip okay we’re back with Kendall we’re talking about anxiety today so Kendall was on the cover of Vogue the cover is amazing because it’s like Kendall Jenner proves everyone wrong and one of you guys because I always ask on Instagram what’s the topic here you’re like what is she proving us wrong about she’s exactly who we thought she was like you know if if it was Kendall proves us wrong if that’s the headline and I’m like okay what what does that mean it I would open this and she would be in the jungles of Zimbabwe does they have Jun I’m sorry if they don’t have junk I’m sorry if it’s an arid Nation volunteering digging Wells inoculating babies no no no you know what she’s doing complaining she’s dressing it up as most of these pain influencers do now when they’re talking about their mental health they’re they’re acting like they’re being brave what they’re to me what they’re doing is they’re complaining I do not appreciate a victim narrative and I feel on some on some sense I feel like kind of like bad saying that because in many ways people feel very alone when they’re struggling with their mental health you know but I think when you make it such a central part of your personality it’s really just self aggrandizing you’re not doing it to inspire anyone else you’re doing it’s just masturbatory you’re doing it to just talk about your feelings be narcissistic and selfish and what the [ __ ] is anxiety what is anxiety self absorption um you’ve never dealt with it sweetheart yes I have first of all I got I’ve been like canceled you know like I’ve had my address posted like I understand anxiety on a level some people don’t you know I have bypassed some hardships that I will never have to know or endure it’s not a contest my point is I have experienced it and when we actually can get enough Clarity to break down what anxiety is yeah a lot of times it comes back to self-absorption what are they going to say about me what’s going to happen to me me me me me me that’s the that’s the good news and the bad news is when it all funnels down to oursel well a lot of times it means we have more control over anxiety than we think that we do we’re going to get into all this in a bit we’re going to really dig in I want to talk about what Kendall said so you know people come out with these interviews and and spreads and magazines and everything um first off can we just look at some of the photos I need to understand what this is who told her to do this who told her to who told her to wear those shoes she looks like she’s got flippers on and like what what is this is she is she a black belt I read the article I didn’t see anything in there maybe I missed it where she’s like I’m a I’m like a purple belt I don’t okay but you know celebrities do these interviews and news aggregators page six Daily Mail TMZ they pull out the juicy bits and a lot of times they pull it out out of context because it’s like they call the pull quote and it’s catchy and so I thought okay like this anxiety thing I feel like this is just the pole quote maybe it was like a few sentences but it was kind of Juicy and maybe she was talking about her tequila that again no one [ __ ] cares about or like fashion it’s not that juicy nope nope it is almost the entirety of this article the article is titled Kendall Jenner is in her feelings here’s some quot I’m going to try to do her voice I’m not going to sit here and act like everything’s perfect that’s life I’m always going to be in and out of those feelings that’s my problem I’m a negative thinker I’m always worrying about something that may never happen Okay I don’t see why I shouldn’t be honest about it in my career right now I feel really stable really hopeful I know she doesn’t exactly sound like this but kind of compared to Kim Simon but I’ve had a tough two months I haven’t but myself and my friends see it I’m more sad than usual I’m way more anxious than usual so I’m not going to sit here and act like everything’s perfect in past interviews when someone’s asked me about my mental state why the [ __ ] are people constantly asking you about that could it be because you are always talking about it I have interviewed a ton of celebrities I’ve interviewed Oprah I’ve interviewed gladus Knight I’ve interviewed Miley Cyrus Kim everybody never once has it occurred to to be like hey tell me about your mental state unless it is something they would be bringing up and she does I remember like her whole arc on the Kardashians is anxiety like when when she first became a model Mom I’m having a meltdown on a plane and I remember this because Chris was like uhhuh sweetie get on the plane it was like ice cold and I could tell Chris was like not this [ __ ] again not this [ __ ] again you know I don’t want to [ __ ] hear it I don’t want to go out I’m anxious she was having anxiety on a family trip she was having anxiety anxiety anxiety I’m going to keep reading in past interviews past interviews when someone’s asked me about my mental state it’s always been I’m great right now but this is what I’ve dealt with well right now I’m actually in it okay okay let’s unpack let’s expand that let’s expand that because what she said what she said I think is very telling I’ve always been I’m great right now but this is what I’ve dealt with victim narrative victim narrative do we need like a victim gong someone who is truly in their gratitude Place someone who is truly aligned someone who is moving forward and not backward someone who is the head and not the tail when someone ask how are you they say I’m good they don’t say bye but hold on hold on here’s what I’ve been through because I need you to pity me I need you on one hand to see me as very put together right now but I also want this Reserve this sort of slush fund of pity from you to draw upon when maybe I need a little card to play when I want to be a little manipulative when I need extra attention or love or control I want you to know that I’ve been through some things red flag red red flag now please do not misunderstand me and say that I want you to engage in some sort of toxic positivity I’m fine everything’s always been fine no I want you to do two things I want you to either process what you’ve been through move through it there’s a difference between being victimized by something which is very real I mean we’re victimized by things all the time and being a victim to be victimized has a start and an end it’s a it’s a moment in time it might be a long moment in time might be recurring moments in time for sure but you do not make that who you are it is something that happens to you it is not you it is not you okay that’s what I want you to do and realize and I also want you to acknowledge that these things you’ve been through actually didn’t kill you and therefore for since they didn’t kill you we can say that this is cliche did it make you stronger you know what there have been a lot of things I’ve gone through and I’m sure you two where it’s like no it actually didn’t make me stronger at all it broke me it scarred me um but okay but it didn’t kill you cuz you’re here no I know that it didn’t um I kind of wish it had it’s on F but it didn’t and I’m still here it didn’t make me stronger can you find a way for it to make you smarter because you know what you can’t do erase it you can’t erase the abuse the breakup the medical report getting fired the fremy Betrayal you can’t you can’t change what happens but can you change what it means can you change what it means when I read this quote from Kendall what I hear is I I want I don’t want to change what it means I want the bad things I’ve done dealt with to continue to be viewed as bad okay I’m not going to really get any learning out of that I don’t know that I’m going to get a lot of gratitude and I know that she’s not getting gratitude because she’s bringing it the [ __ ] back up again and she’s always going to touch back to her being victimized by something versus you know what I’m great and it is because of those bad breaks that I feel really strong those are really hard that whole Pepsi commercial thing which was so cringe but that was really tough but you know what here was a silver lining I got way smarter about the deals that I make and I I learned like more about my brand I don’t know like whatever the [ __ ] she got out of that that’s not what I hear her say I hear her say I’m doing great but oh but hey but hey Joel ostein has a phrase it didn’t happen to you it happened for you and boy oh boy to inhabit that like that to me is like Buddha level Consciousness oh well I mean Tech I think he means is Jesus level Consciousness but it’s like if you can like come up to this level and be like that didn’t happen to me I mean it did but it happened for me I mean I remember when like when I’ve gone through things I I will have this moment where I’m like why is this happening and it’s not like why I will have that moment too you know but it’s a it’s a place I pass through I it’s a moment it’s a moment I will have it as a moment I will not have it 24/7 and then I get to from why is this happening to okay hold on why is this happening six months from now when I’m through it I bet there’s going to be a moment when I’m like that’s why he had to D me so that I could go on a road trip to Arizona and meet this guy and like like a truck stop and okay that’s a bad example you’re not going to me any [ __ ] truck St I don’t want you to do that but you know what I mean so many things in my life that have made no sense and been so painful in the moment I can look back and be like wow who knew I mean one of the hardest things I’ve been through is getting canceled um like I said my address was posted and I had to leave New York the FBI told me this was not this was not my own paranoia this was the Federal Bureau of Investigation and I moved to Montana you know and I remember I remember a few months after I was in Montana I had Cowboy he was just my little baby puppy I had a boyfriend I had a truck I had a house I had beautiful like space and land and rivers and and I was like holy [ __ ] that’s why what a blessing kind of wish it’ been delivered in a better package you know kind of wish but look what I got out of this part of what I got out of this was the blessings of God that was from the blessings of God but I got to say part of what I got out of it was me being like I’m not going to let this be something that happens to me I’m going to let it be something that happens for me because I can’t change it what choice do we have I don’t like feeling like a victim it is gross to me and people can come here and they you’re a braggy douche you know what someone out there is inspired by a braggy douche a’t nobody inspired by a victim and if people are it’s only because misery loves company I don’t want anything to do with those people I don’t want them around me I don’t want them watching this channel I don’t want anything to do with them get those [ __ ] away from me I am here for the braggy douchebags I’m here for the climbers the ascenders the winners the champions and people can say you’re braggy sit back down that’s where you belong I get you don’t understand what it’s like up here in our rarified air you don’t need to we always need victims we’re always going to need pigeons right somebody’s got to eat the cigarette butts off the ground it’s not going to be the Eagles and so when I hear Kendall talking about all this it’s like you know that mean where the guy has a cigarette he’s just like uh like that’s how I feel only that I have like 10 cigarettes I’m just like oh God Kendall so let’s hear what some other stuff you guys had to say about this all she talks about is her anxiety not much is wrong in her life so this is her Hill to die on stop being a complainer oh yeah ooh how to get over your own self mythology this is really good because it this Nails it at this point Kendall’s mythology is that she’s an anxious person that it’s my mental Health every everyone asks me about my mental health that’s weird that’s weird and you know on one hand it it is kind of inspiring and it’s relatable because it just goes to show even someone like her with all the money in the world all the power and the clout and the influence and by the way I’ve seen her in person before her like minor but significant plastic surgeries I mean she is otherworldly beautiful she really is she is absolutely unreal looking unreal and what so many of you guys said was what exactly is wrong in your life but again this is relatable because we we apply a label to ourselves or someone else applies that label you’re a [ __ ] you’re a [ __ ] you’re a fat you’re stupid you’re lazy you’re not worthy and the amount of time that those people spend saying that to us usually ends we graduate we move out we break up we quit but for some reason we pick up where they left off and we keep it going I’m a [ __ ] I’m fat I’m not worthy of love I don’t deserve this I’m an impostor I’m always going to be this way I’m anxious I’m broken and Kendall is such an interesting case study of how this can run a muck in the face of every [ __ ] blessing imaginable Every Blessing imaginable and this is how she chooses to Define herself it blows my mind it blows my mind I could be having well you know what I have had like some of the worst days of my life were days when I did like a YouTube video or I was on TV about something it’s not what I talked about because I don’t choose to Define Myself by those low moments it’s not interesting it’s gross and is antithetical to who I believe I am as a person and it blows my mind that somehow it’s not antithetical to Kendall and her own self- mythology I think that’s I think that’s really weird and odd don’t you think that’s weird that she fundamentally wants to see herself is this broken anxious depressive person and you might be saying that’s actually not how anxiety and depression works like you have it whether or not you want to believe that you have it that’s true I’m not one of these people who is like oh if you have cancer just tell yourself that you don’t decide to live that’s I get that but there is a difference as we said of being victimized having the disease having the anxiety dealing with something and being a victim she’s in this Camp you know speaking of cancer I I have seen people who get cancer and it is their entire personality even after they move on from it mentally they’re still there cancer survivor cancer Warrior [ __ ] cancer and it’s not coming from a place of I’m spreading awareness I’m raising money it’s I am still there I was getting for some reason enough juice off of this victimhood I kind of want to stay there I kind of like it and no one’s going to tell you that no one’s going to be like oh my God the best years of my life for when I had cancer everyone’s paying attention to me and like doing whatever I wanted was great because like that’s a crazy thing to say and if you make them say that out loud they’re like what right but yet but yet you see people who who do seem to stay in that place I’m of a childbearing age and I know people their IVF Journey the rainbow baby the miscarriage I know a girl she had a miscarriage she was like it 3 months along which is which is a normal Mis caring like Zone you know she didn’t have a a 9-month miscar it’s like it’s very sad she went on to have five children five every one of their birthdays there has to be another cake for the dead baby that she calls it the dead my dead child five kids every holiday well we really wish the dead baby was here I’m like are you is this a [ __ ] joke like you need to go to therapy like there is a difference between mour and whatever the [ __ ] that is you know and it’s because if you look at if you I don’t okay I’m not I have some blind spots with empathy you’re like I know that like okay I have blind spots with morality there’s there I don’t feel guilt like there’s just things I don’t feel and so therefore I can look at people like that a much different lens because their games don’t work on me I can just see through them like I my heart can go out to someone for that loss but I can Al also be like hold on you you switched into a different pathology now and you’re getting some sort of emotional payout from it human beings do not stay in behaviors or situations that do not work hear this again human beings we don’t stay somewhere and we do not continue engaging in behaviors that don’t work and you might look at someone who’s a drug addict and be like that doesn’t work no for them it does this is the difference you define work differently than they Define work okay you probably Define it in a healthy way a situation that works is fulfilling uplifting Soul affirming you know lucrative you’re maybe getting laid right they don’t and it’s [ __ ] up because if you ask every every person on Earth what’s your definition of Happiness what’s your definition of comfort Comfort people say the same things but based on results based on choices and patterns no no you ask anyone tell me about your perfect partner no one’s like um abusive lots of gaslighting jealousy control maybe some hitting um but at the very least uh very little respect no one says that plenty of people are with people people like that we probably have been too and people stay in those places because there is some emotional pay out there getting maybe it’s pity maybe it’s a reinforcement of their own internal negative tape Loop my father said I I was useless my father said I was worthless that guy treats me exactly like that it scratches this weird itch and so we look at kendle and we’re like what the [ __ ] I don’t know I don’t I don’t know what created this because it doesn’t seem to be like a family wide thing I mean it is and it isn’t given their their public Spotlight I mean to live the way they do of course you would have anxiety like of course but Kendall stays there it’s not a moment it’s not something thing that you know it’s situational we deal with it this is her I’ve never heard Kim talk about anxiety she did when she talked about her robbery in Paris all those years ago that’s not free floating anxiety that’s that’s based on something I mean you know that’s that’s PTSD that makes sense Chloe had all this anxiety when Tristan cheated on her and it was all over the news and she was [ __ ] pregnant that’s like hello like that is reasonable and pegged to something Kendall I don’t I don’t know I don’t know I don’t know seems to be a personality trait and anxiety is one of those things where you’re like is it even worth talking about so okay when I was growing up we never heard that word like if you were anxious about something you were anxious about like a student government election opening night of the play um a test or a sports game or like a boy those are all specific things right those are like things and if you said okay so first of all I grew up oops okay so it’s important to note that I grew up in a a nice Community I grew up in Irvine California academics holy [ __ ] [ __ ] like people were getting 5.0 in high school not 4.0 5.0 academics were everything I mean we were ridden like boy boy and so if you said hey I’m just really anxious about math the answer was well I think you need to go study anxiety was a marker that you weren’t ready anxiety was a clue anxiety was pointing you in a direction it was a map it wasn’t oh go back to bed oh let’s get you a pill it was get your ass out of bed go study go get another tutor if you have to sign up for another SAT prep class until you don’t feel anxious about that test and then even if you do if you still do the day of the test you can look yourself in the face and say you know what I did everything I could I knocked out of the park I was pulling all nighters I was canceling this I was I I did everything I could whatever will be will be we’ll see we’ll see there was anxiety meant go fast fter it never meant slow it down like that’s that that was a crazy that would have been an insane thing to tell people who grew up in my town oh if you feel nervous about something just don’t do it what what because the parents in our town were Titans of Industry I mean my friend’s dad invented lasic surgery for God’s sakes like the that is the level I’m talking about like half my school was Asian you think those people didn’t have any [ __ ] pressure you think those first generation like those immigrant parents wanted to hear about their anxiety not even close it’s like anxiety is coming over from China in a cargo ship I don’t want to hear about your anxiety for the tap dancer nobody wants to hear about it that was the message and honestly most of us turned out to be [ __ ] Champions I mean people from my school are famous they’re millionaires I know one who’s a billionaire they went ivy league they went USC I mean they’re they’re incredible like it’s it’s just like I’m a YouTuber but you win some you lose some and so my point is I don’t think that that’s a bad directive to give people if you’re anxious and it’s about something get your ass prepared for this you’re anxious about like the end of the world okay start prepping start growing your own vegetables stop medicating yourself you’re anxious about a social interaction look in the mirror are you well- groomed are you interesting are you Diversified from a personality standpoint or are you anxious about parties because you don’t have anything to talk about and therefore you’re not anxious about a party you are reasonably predicting the outcome based on previous data which is I’m going to go in there and I’m not going to have anything to say and people are going to be weird around me so get something to [ __ ] say I’ve told you guys this before maybe just in the laage but my ex Tom who’s like quite the little drug addict his big thing is anxiety I’m dealing with anxiety I was like number [ __ ] one you’re anxious cuz you’re constantly hung over that’s why I don’t really drink anymore I mean that’s a huge reason like I cannot handle a hangover I cannot handle that feeling uh uh uh uhuh no good time is worth that and I said but bro your anxiety is appropriate because look at how you behave you should be concerned about how people are going to react to you because you’re a nightmare you’re rude you’re incredibly immature and out of line and so you wonder I’m I’m socially anxious good that’s a good thing again that’s a marker that’s that’s trying to give you some Clues as to your behavior and point you in a different direction and what are you doing instead you’re not listening so okay sometimes anxiety is the psyche trying to be heard you don’t need a pill you need a quiet room and you need a [ __ ] backbone to listen to what your psyche is telling you aren’t you glad I’m not a therapist aren’t you glad I’m don’t work on a suicide hotline right now of course there’s some anxiety that’s just like free floating and it’s like it’s coming from nowhere the calls coming from inside the house and that is truly the absolute worst because you feel like you feel like your body and your mind are betraying you it’s like what exactly is the problem what’s the problem here I am listening to my psyche and it’s just one like insane spook story after the after the next or maybe it’s no story at all it’s just like it’s in my body it’s like like I can feel it it’s like rushing through my veins listen it could be things like um food sensitivities like I I don’t eat dairy anymore and my anxiety like basically evaporated because I was just so inflamed by it and I guess that inflammation like my wrists don’t swell and I don’t get asthma I went nuts like it it affected like I guess my gut bacteria which affected serotonin production and on and up to my brain and you know what I think of as a pretty good like if there were to be a Magic Bullet against anxiety two two bullets gratitude and volunteering gratitude and volunteering wouldn’t you know no those things walk hand in hand I volunteer here in bosan I’m a waitress I am uh at this little cafe that’s a pay what you can Cafe I’ve had my training I get to do my first shift I’m really excited and I signed up for doing this when I was in like an anxious State like I was breaking up with my boyfriend and I was just you know you’re just down bad and I’m like I I am so I’m so tired of my own head I’m so tired of my own thoughts I’m so tired of my own [ __ ] I’m tired of his [ __ ] I’m tired of mine I’m just I’m exhausted with thinking about myself I mean basically and victim narrative people they’re never tired of thinking about themselves and I’m like I got to get out of my head what what can I do and let’s just boil this down to a blun way of saying it maybe it would be helpful if I were around people with real problems okay fine great if you are nothing but a narcissist you’re like a purely evil person and you’re like I just want to like realize how good I have it so I kind of want to be around like the poor I don’t care whatever gets you to that soup kitchen if it’s that weird shitty mentality I don’t care it doesn’t matter to me you know just fine go go do it if that helps other people while also dialing down your own Mania cool bro the ends justifies the means we are mavelli and queens around here that was not my you know my not was not necessarily my mind I mean you take it all the way to One Direction that’s kind of what it is but I was like I I want to like I I have all this energy in my head and I’m like a crazy animal that needs like like I’m like a working breed like Cattle Dog right and if you it wants to be on a farm hurting cattle and nipping at them and if you don’t do something with that energy it’s going to chew the [ __ ] out of the furniture and that’s where I was at I was chewing my own furniture and I’m like I got to do something with this energy okay I want to Direct Energy in a positive direction and yeah I could like take myself and get a massage I could play tennis and great do all those things do all those things but there was still enough excess energy that I’m like I got to do something not just for myself cuz I’m sick of myself I got to do something for other people and yeah you do get a sense of Shame you get a sense of Shame and you know what shame is again not an emotion I feel a lot and when people try to shame me um I’m like okay the only time I feel shame is when some a lot of people feel shame because they’re not conforming to what Society wants what their religion wants what their family wants that I don’t that misses me like the broadside of a bus I don’t feel that I will feel shame when I know I am not living up to my potential that’s when I feel it and so for me to sit here ho ho hoo my life is so hard my boyfriend is stupid girl your life is great you are healthy you you have I mean tits that won’t quit right like I’m blessed I’m blessed and we’re all blessed in some way we’re all blessed in some way like the the problems you have now number one I bet you were praying for five years ago and some people they would give everything they have to deal with your problems right now and listen again I want you to be like M just a little bit of that shame all you have to have is an eye dropper I want you to picture it like an eye dropper into the ocean just that’s all you need that’s all you need I want that shame to be like a stop button on those negative thoughts on that negative tape loop on that victim narrative to be like you need to stop it you need to stop it right now okay it doesn’t need to be a full-on lecture you don’t need to go into that opposite you know victim Narrative of I’m such a piece of [ __ ] how dare I oh because that’s what my ex would do when I would be like you need to cut it the [ __ ] out you’re 6’4 you’re hot you run a company your family loves you you’re moderate in bed come on he’d be like you’re right I’m a nightmare and then it would be like Off to the Races in terms of Shame and guess what he wanted to do drink don’t do that just take a little just enough to act as like kind of a spark to get you up and out helping other people and if volunteering seems overwhelming or difficult first of all it’s not cut it out cut it out call your local food bank that’s who I volunteer through they always need help it’s like very minimal training very very minimal you know but if not call your friend who might be a single mom be like can I do something for you this week call your grandmother she would love to hear from you call your mother you know call you just walk around the neighborhood put up a flyer that says hey I’ve got two hours on Tuesday does anybody need help with anything I’m trying to give back to the community a little bit offer to watch your friend’s kid so she can go get a pedicure do something selfless you’re going to be surprised how good you feel and you know what hey if you’re like I don’t want to do that I don’t I don’t want to do that uhoh Kendall are you Kendall are you Kling are you Jing are you actually loving wallowing in your victim narrative and listen you’re allowed to wallow about bad things that happen again I’m I’m not saying like toxic positivity nothing hurts of course it hurts feel it and like feel it really just let yourself feel it and then let yourself pick yourself back up you know and I I get that not every thing that goes wrong in our life is a a one afternoon pity party kind of thing I mean there’s stuff that we deal with all our lives but this is the question are you dealing with it well yeah I’m going to therapy okay therapy is only as good as what you self-report therapy is only as good as what you do with the advice you’re given if you’re going to a therapist who’s not giving you advice don’t go to that [ __ ] therapist anymore you need to do more than just talk okay you need action get some cognitive behavioral therapy get a mindset coach I mean I use Laura St John she’s incredible like I want to leave these bad places I don’t want to stay there and if you’re hesitating to pull on any one of these lifelines it’s cuz you are also getting a payout from this victimhood what is it what is it I have a friend who’s dealing with a drug addiction and she says it’s anxiety and finally I’m like you have not tried one single thing not one thing not exercise not therapy not volunteering not meditation mindset coaching electroshock therapy acupuncture anything nothing except for drinking drinking in pills that’s all you’ve tried and when I realized that I kind of washed my hands of her it’s like okay I’m actually not going to take time out of my life to try to fix you you don’t want to be fixed I have no idea why I have no idea your life is a hellscape to me but this is where we’re at and so if you’re looking at a Kendall and you’re like okay well why don’t we go on a hike instead of drinking cuz you know you’re going to be hung over and then you’re going to be anxious and they’re like no they be Jenine they be kending wash your hands of these people they’re going to bring you down because misery loves company and you know what else misery loves a [ __ ] audience misery loves an audience you know what we always say don’t ask a clown why they’re a clown ask yourself why you’re at the circus anxiety’s a [ __ ] but you know what so are you and if there’s going to be one bigger [ __ ] on this block I want it to be you and I want you to defeat these things and not Gaslight yourself and say that you don’t ever feel it and nothing hurts and everything’s fine but I don’t want you to stay in these places to the point where you be jerine and this is part of your personality and this is a label you are now living I used to deal with anxiety I get rid of the used toos we all used to do something I mean you used to poopy in your pants do you bring that up also hey you look cute thank thanks but do you know what I used to poop my pants try it try it cuz that’s what Kendall’s doing maybe that’ll be her next interview okay we’re going to wrap it up and you guys we are launching two new Italy trips next week if you want to be the first to know cuz they’re going to be super small 10 to 12 people maximum maybe even smaller we’re going to see um go ahead and click down below enter your email to be kept in the loop no spam cuz I don’t know how to do that and I’m excited take you guys to Rome Florence and Tuscany and also to Rome and the amaly coast they’re going to be topnotch they’re going to be fabulous Sisterhood bonding content creation appol spritzes gooa men and th THS and the best part of all a week with me okay I’ll See You Later shig Gators I’ll see you tomorrow Happy Mother’s Day you are a Sol