JENNIFER LOPEZ & BEN AFFLECK DIVORCING? The Pros/Cons of Living Together!| Shallon Lester

JENNIFER LOPEZ & BEN AFFLECK DIVORCING? The Pros/Cons of Living Together!| Shallon Lester

[Music] welcome back I’m shally From the Block that I really thought that cold open was going to go better than it did that was bad I’m so sorry I’m so sorry I’m going to really have to bring the heat for the rest of this video right okay we’re going to talk about Jennifer Lopez’s possible split that’s looming from Ben Affleck what’s going on here kind of a bunch of things I’m going to break down some of the gossip that’s going on because we’re hearing everything from like house hunting they’re house hunting separately and we’re going to talk about maybe it’s actually the smartest thing ever to live apart from your husband is it I’m going to talk about the pros and cons of living together I’ve done it you know I was married and I semi lived with another boyfriend I can tell you from being a few miles down the road from that I obviously want to know what you guys think in the comment section if you’ve been through this and whatever but we’re also going to talk about another issue that might be dooming their relationship which is Ben according to sources really did not want their relationship to be all that public and we’re going to unpack why we’re going to unpack why this is kind of an unfair thing for him to say but is Jennifer being fair to him there’s a lot there’s a lot to learn because I I think the last video we did on Jennifer was about her what would you call that thing like a rock opera that’s on Amazon Prime called this is me now now or this is I don’t get it I I don’t get it it but it was like this this whole like rock music story thing about her addiction to love and dating and always wanting to find the one and I personally was very very moved and triggered by that like very much and there was one line in there and she’s like people think you know people like me who always want to be in love and everything they think we’re weak do you have any idea how much strength it takes to keep going to pick yourself back up and hope Jenny you got me you got me good girl you got me good and I just kind of want to talk about Jennifer um in general because people are saying she’s in her flop era is she I we’re going to break it all down but before we do ital is here well it’s not it it’s in a different place and the trips don’t start yet but the Italy trip are on sale you guys we have two trips to Italy this fall we have the Amalfi Coast in early September and we have Rome Tuscany Florence so basically the major Italian cities and all the cultural sites a month later in early October I am so excited for these I’ve been like putting them together meticulously working with the different travel companies these are new travel companies that we’re working with it’s not trova anymore and they are a much higher class of experience and I I can just talk about them all day this is a chance for you to do a few different things first of all du travel at our age I mean honestly at any age it’s hard to get people to take it off the group chat do you know what I mean everyone’s like yeah let’s plan a trip but by the time you coordinate their schedule maybe their boyfriend or husband schedule work blah blah blah finances that’s its own situation and then you have to all agree on where you’re going and how you want to travel and what you want to see you don’t have to do that out with me you can look at the itinerary and you can say great guess what sweetheart it’s all planned all you got to do is show your hot ass up plan your outfits get your Pinterest board just kidding I have Pinterest boards for you and just come and you might be like oh I don’t want to go like by myself you’re not traveling by yourself you’re actually going to be traveling with your 11 new best friends everybody who comes on these trips that I’ve ever hosted they literally leave bonded for life people are still in the group chats from trips 2 years ago they visit each other like I mean one girl got married there were a bunch of girls at the wedding like it is a whole bonding experience so if you need to make friends maybe this is the first time you’re going to make like adult friends and not just the people you kind of grew up with and whatever people are going to make you better cuz we’re all Alpha females people are going to support you because if you like me and you watch his channel you’re part of a girl gang like you love building up other chicks you’re a hype person plus you get to hang out with me like I said everything’s planned everything is nice nice a highlevel experience and you’re going to have something to look forward to all summer like how sick is that plus if you book and pay for all of these trips well not all it plus if you pay up front for the trips you get a free one-on-one 30 minute Zoom with me and we can talk about the trip we can plan outfits we can talk about love career whatever you want we can just brow out for 30 minutes so click the links down below two different links for the two different trips check them out see which one fits your Vibe these are super Limited you know they’re they’re a small group okay I want this to be a very highlevel um curated beautiful experience for you guys okay okay JLo JLo yeah now I do think I need a bit of an I told you some moment here cuz I love when I told you some moment I did call this relationship I remember exactly where I was it was 2021 I was in Palm Springs just literally trying to live my life for 5 minutes nope Jennifer Lopez would not let me she broke up with A-Rod and they were engaged and I said I bet you dollars to Donuts she will get back with Ben Affleck because he is a hurt locker he is an embodiment he’s like a portal back in time to when life was perfect her Fame was at its height I mean her body was banging it still is Right life just stretched out in front of her fresh and new and full of sparkling possibilities you know and I’m sure she imprinted on Ben like I said as like a time machine to that time I’m like she’s she is feeling very bad about herself cast aside old used up she’s none of these things she’s none of these things but that’s how anyone feels you know when a long-term relationship ends you’re like just kind of like like spat out into the world I’m like she’s going to go back to where she thinks she can recapture her Youth and I was right and I was right I personally like love them together I love this I love the stories of rekindled romance uh if you’re in the chalant you know why I’m saying this I just broke up with someone who I I re ah I really think don’t do this don’t do this here I really think like is my soulmate oh wow okay just here we are I’m fine I’m fine but he like the the time is not right the timing is not right like he has we both have some growing up to do honestly like I can sit here and say that I am perfect I would appreciate it if you also said that about me that would be great thank you feel feel free to fill up the comment section but yeah the timing is not it and it just is like wow okay I’ve been looking my whole life for this person and the timing is wrong so if you would like to share your stories of rekindled romance I would really really like that please please can you do that can you can you do that for me that really made me happy so perhaps I am at this moment inordinately invested on seeing Jennifer Lopez and Ben stick it out I don’t know maybe a little bit I do root for them though I think that they share a bond that not a lot of people in Hollywood can I mean they’ve just they’ve really been through it together you know I I don’t know I just I love them together I think that they’re great and yeah like I said her thing on that rock opera really really spoke to me but what’s what did stick out in that is like the the plot line is a woman is trying to basically overcome her love addiction like Jen is telling her own story and in it she she goes to like love addict Anonymous right and then she’s like we’re done with dating I’m doing me I’m focusing on myself I’m being alone for a minute and it’s like you look at that and you have to laugh it’s like girl did you do that I don’t think you did like when did you do that when I haven’t seen it I don’t remember her being like you know in her dream catcher eileene fiser like single woman celibate phase I don’t remember that I remember going from A-Rod to Ben Affleck like pretty fast so it’s interesting she made that movie and went on this journey that she herself maybe did not actually go on maybe she did maybe she did but the math ain’t math in and here’s here’s the problem here’s the problem though she followed it up with a documentary about how she made that rock opera and how she like self-funded it it was really this labor of love and from the heart and which is by the way is like a deeply terrible financial decision like not that it’s just crazy it worked out because it bad idea but it was also the story of her and Ben getting back together okay we have to pause right there we have to tea out apparently sources say that one of the big issues between Ben and Jennifer is that she wants to be much more public and demonstrative than he does he’s kind of a low-key guy he’s like the Boston guy what are you queer you know like when Boston guys Duncan like I love how a really shitty coffee chain is like the center point of his personality I love this for him and she she’s like a a flashy showy person she’s a narcissist she’s a classic classic narcissist I don’t think she’s an evil person at all I think she’s a bad I love her but she is a narcissist she relies on that outside person to fill her up and she does not know who she is without that you know even in the documentary one of her managers or something is like she kind of lives for likes she does like she has to put things out there she stresses about it like she does not have a very thick skin about this business she’s in which is crazy cuz it’s been so long I mean she she’s obviously pretty tough if she’s lasted this long but no she takes a lot of things to heart and therefore this is a big divide between the two of them so he I guess requested nay possibly demanded that their relationship if they were going to do this this time was going to be really low Pro because if you go back to the late ’90s early 2000s when this was happening and everyone was wearing belly chains and pants so low you could see everyone’s labia that was what doomed them I mean if you weren’t around then I remember it be and the coverage around these two was relentless Relentless I mean Paparazzi chasing like for just random shots of them like holding coffee and like it was it was crazy it was crazy and that pressure really they kind of cracked underneath that because maybe Jen was courting it a little bit more and maybe Ben was like this is actually not what I signed up for if this if you and I are coming along like if this Fishbowl will be the price of admission to this relationship I cannot do this I can’t do this they don’t go into that too much in the documentary but I I got the subtext that that was kind of what it is and it’s ironic that we hear about this issue of the Fishbowl in a documentary big fan of irony are we Jennifer and so if Ben requested that this is a more Low Pro thing that they’re going to do you know I cannot imagine that documentary satw did you see it the pen Affleck thing Jennifer took all of the love letters that he had written her which by the way a love [Music] letter there is there anything better in this world if you have not had a man write you a love letter that is the next thing you ask him for the flowers the social media post you pen and paper pen and paper write it down I still have all of the Love Letters men have given me and they they do give them to me I think because I’m a writer they know that’s like okay she’s going to geek on this and I do they mean everything to me and he wrote her lots lots and this is when like no one was really like like texting all the time like you wrote Love Letters like you still did she gave those to the producers the director the the writer and like he didn’t know that and he’s talking about it with like yeah I just I was like what what he was being a very good sport about it I I mean that’s such a violation if you know I know that he’s a private person why do I know that and you don’t you’re his soulmate why that to me kind of says it all that to me and encapsulates their relationship she is willing to cannibalize the specialness between them to make something public not in a nefarious way she she’s a showy person she wants to show off and how she feels is this healthy for a relationship ah I don’t know that it is if a man is like hey can we not can we keep this a little off social media do you think maybe you could extend that line of logic and be like don’t give the Love Letters he wrote when he was like 25 to a crew at Amazon I mean can you buy them is it available on Prime can I get Ben Affleck is like a subscription a monthly subscription service I can do I get one Ben Affleck love letter a month maybe a week I don’t know how many to write so that’s problems that’s problems for them and I bring this up because I think now in this day and age there’s a lot of us who are Ben and Jens where one of us is much more demonstrative and showy let’s be honest it is going to be the girl it’s going to be the girl and the guy is like ah I’m just I’m a little bit more Low Pro let me tell you something right now if the roles are reversed if you are dating a guy who wants to be all the up on social media all the time and he’s posting like what’s up fam just your boy here telling you to rise and grind grind it up do not let that man touch your genitals do not be any place that that man is do not let him in your house that is a gross person social media is for the girls social media is for girls it’s for girls every guy date they’re like um I’m actually like not on platforms I hope that’s okay I’m like is it okay it’s not a deal breaker that’s a deal maker and I always say I was like social media is for girls like I don’t want to see guys posting a lot it creeps me the out like unless it’s an integral part of your business like you’re like a personal trainer you got to post it if you’re just a guy and you’re like power posting I guess the exception is if you’re like gen Z like a younger gen Z like your frontal lobe hasn’t closed it’s not an it’s not an indictment on you like it’s just it’s just like science so you’re still like figuring things out but if you you are like a a full grown adult no no so I’m addressing this to the girls and you might be in the comments being like no my boyfriend’s a social media guy I okay okay all right okay you know what let’s follow that thread let’s pull on that if let’s say he’s not like overp posting but he wants to post you a bunch and you’re like no why why I think that’s a little sus girl that kind of tells me you don’t necessarily want to be associated with him in that public way are you worried it’s going to trigger an x that you still miss are you wor your family’s not going to proove are you like no none of these things but ah get I mean sit with that and unpack it because that to me is a little bit sus like if he is just a normal dude posting normal things why do you not want to be a part of that like why do you not want to be publicly claimed by him remember Steve Harvey has taught us that men do three things protect possess provide if you are encountering a man who will not do even one of those things that is not your man he needs to protect you possess you not in like a Harrison buter kind of way but like that’s my woman that’s he claims you and provides for you doesn’t need to pay all your bills but he’s paying the bill when youall go out to Applebees Texas Roadhouse he’s got it and I don’t know let him pay your bills it you should be able to pay your own bills but he should also be able to pay them doesn’t mean he has to but he should be able to anyway it’s a different conversation if you don’t want to be claimed by him why and what if he doesn’t want to be claimed by you now there’s a difference between do not post me at all and I don’t think we need to share every single thing we’re doing on socials it’s one of those things that you really do I think need to take the time and negot neate if anything that should be almost the only thing you negotiate you don’t need to sit down and negotiate finances at every stage or whatever or how you’re splitting the holidays this is something that you need to get very very clear on your partner’s boundaries and not shame them for them unless they are sus it’s like I literally never want to be claimed by you you know like look at what’s going on that’s deeper this is obviously a problem I have given what I do for a living um I have my own issues with posting guys that I’m dating because I in the past I have had deranged parasocial fans try to my boyfriends and honestly some I think some of them even succeeded like I dated an absolute garbage person so who knows like good for you girl I guess but I get paranoid about that like I don’t always want to tag the guy that I’m dating and have him suddenly get 500 friend requests it’s like no thanks please don’t do that so I will post somebody but I won’t always tag them or I’ll will refer to them OB bely but like not by their actual name it’s but I have these conversations with someone like hey how much do you want to be featured a lot not at all and whatever they say I’m like okay that’s valid because look if a guy doesn’t want to claim you guess what he’s showing you that in way more categories in Instagram that just might be the clearest writing on the wall that you might have to look at but I guarantee you you haven’t met his friends you’re not really allowed in his house you might think it’s sweet that he’s always coming your house is that cuz you’re not just allowed in his he doesn’t want you in his space girl bye there are other signs of this but also ask yourself why is it important to be posting him constantly and I’m not saying that you are wrong for that I mean if you’re in love and I’ve always said you know I I I hate Travis and Courtney but I love their love in a way I mean I hate them and I hate their love but I love how in love they are and I want that like I don’t even care how cringe we look I just got a shout out from the rooftops how much I love [Music] you God I’m in hell okay so yeah I get it but these are parameters you have to come to like some sort of negotiation with because look if you’re going to have a long-term relationship with someone there will be more of these negotiation points whether it is finance or splitting the holidays or dealing with in-laws like if you can’t have these conversations what kind of relationship are you actually in is it a mature one I don’t know so let’s pivot to now the next I’m sorry I can’t stop fussing with my hair I do this one it’s straight let’s pivot to the next um padillo about Ben and Jennifer which is they’re house hunting they are potentially house hunting Now sources I think her sources because you know she’s obsessed with controlling the narrative are saying that like oh ah she’s just looking for an investment property blah blah blah blah blah time will tell when celebrities lie about breakups it’s like lying about a pregnancy like do you not think eventually this what’s your plan here I mean I get it though it’s even just in our personal life like you you don’t want to hard launch being together and you don’t want a hard launch a breakup when you’re still just trying to figure it out and you’re maybe hoping things work out you know I mean they’re people just like everybody else and it’s like maybe she’s doing everything she can to save it maybe he is maybe there’s nothing wrong but it brought up a good question about being together without being together in the same place let me tell you something I know let’s say 20 Mar 20 of my friends are married out of those 20 I would say probably 18 want a different residence from their husband and at this point in my life um you know cuz I’m like 300 years old people have been married for like a good amount now like I would say at the very outside seven years some longer some maybe a little shorter but so it’s not like they’re hone in the honeymoon phase they’re newly wet like no no and they’ve been together probably like four or five years before that they done seen it all and the women are like I would love my own space I’m not going to be getting a train run on me okay it’s not like a pad and cheating on my husband it’s it’s actually the opposite I don’t want anyone in that space it is a place where I can read and I can watch my shows and if I’m gassy that’s fine I just want to be alone and I can have all the closet space I want and maybe it’s I don’t actually want to pick up after his ass anymore and maybe he’s going to see that that’s crazy don’t do themselves laundry doesn’t fold itself what and unsurprisingly none of the men will go for this and I say I say unsurprisingly because you might think I think our conditioning as women and what we hear culturally is like women are the ball and chain they always want to tie the men down and men are just trying out like they’re trying to be out there just like everything imaginable actually I found it precisely the opposite it the anchors the ones who want to just settle down you know and not sowing their o those are the men men need a lot of sex they do not need sex with a bunch of different people not not that I found unless they are a very very toxic narcissist boy like if if they outside of like a very certain pathology no if they’re even worth dating they they’re actually not that wild at all they will have maybe a wild phase once that ends the Iron Curtain boom slams shut and they are like domestic it’s women who are like you know why cuz women do more in a relationship a man’s quality of life vastly improves when he moves in with a woman vastly have you seen the sheets that men sleep on it’s like their mom buys them one set of sheets freshman year in college and they literally never buy another set for the rest of their lives also one pillow the flat pillow store like this I’ve eaten pizzas that are fluffier it’s Insanity you move in with a woman suddenly everything smells good there’s colors that go together things are organized I mean yeah what’s not to like and you get laid on top of it amazing a woman moves out huh one of my friends was dating a married man girl I know for years years and he would he had very young kids as in a newborn when they met don’t I know believe me I know and he would always say I don’t I can’t get divorced because I would only see the kids half the time I said Ally it is not that he would have to parent 50% I said Ally It’s not that he would see the kids too little it’s that he would suddenly be seeing them too much right now he has to parent 10% she’s a stay-at-home mom if they get divorced and he has them half the time he is parenting 50% he’s done that math he’s done that math he has to do 100% of his own dishes 100% of his own laundry now he’s doing 0% his quality of life diminishes astronomically astronomically and so when women get divorced I watched this with several of my friends here in Boseman they get divorced and their husband boom remarries I mean within six months this dude is remarried why uh he needs a new employee he’s done doing all the laundry he’s done cooking for himself like let’s get let’s get the replacement in here and my friend is Twisted because she’s like why haven’t I moved on I’m like because your life is better now because your life is actually better his got way worse yours got got better so of course you’re not in a rush to fill that position you on some level know that when you import a new man into your life there will be a downshift of your quality of life in some categories in others it will go up of course in some it will go down you’re going to have twice as much laundry twice as much dishes twice as much meal planning I mean twice as much domestic labor so yeah I get why women want their own place if they’re going to be taking care of everything shouldn’t it be to their own specifications you know that’s why I love living alone and listen some of the oh some of the happiest times of my life please Shon don’t start to cry again I am just in a bad in a bad place right now some of the best times of my life was when I had just moved in with my husband we we weren’t married yet obviously we were dating and it was that nesting oh my God it was so cool I was so domestic I was like baking all the time and it was fall we had moved in and so that was like perfect it’s like the Cozy season and like do you like these sheets it was like it was we were partnering we were mating and it was amazing it really was amazing it was so it’s not all gloom and doom when you move in with someone but there’s a lot that changes and I know that living in New York City many people moved in because it made sense I mean that’s why we moved in I lost my lease my build my apartment got sold and I was like I was like basically going to be out in my ass and he was like yes move in with me and financially it made a ton of sense logistically it made a ton of sense was it the best thing for our relationship I don’t think so if I had had the money to Main maintain my own place I think we could have taken it slower gotten to know each other made better decisions and maybe either built a stronger marriage that would have last or avoided a marriage that didn’t but I didn’t have the money to do that which is why I always say Financial Freedom is the only Freedom Financial Freedom is the foundation to happiness in your life and it’s not about buying the nice bags and this it is about optionality it’s about choices with no money you don’t have a lot of options and the person with the money is making the decisions make absolutely no mistake there sweetheart well there’s these sugar babies and they got their sugar daddy by the balls no they don’t no they don’t we talked about this in the tradwife video I mean I can absolutely get the appeal of a tradwife the downside is your husband owns you it’s more than a job it’s a plantation okay because when he decides to cut off the money if he does what are you going to do about it take the kids where with what money set up what apartment with what money the money he Deans to give you miss me with that nope I as much as it would feel good to be protected and provided for I would sleep with one eye open I could never rest if that was my circumstance never if I don’t have my own money my own ability to make money I don’t care what kind of benevolent Master you are no no I would just not feel good about that that’s me some people feel absolutely fine cool I don’t and I would caution you against that because you know what the wind can change and you can’t change the wind and you might not be able to change those situations if he’s like you’re out in your ass or guess what um I’m my secretary and she’s going to move in what are you going to do about it that’s what I think thought I don’t want that for you I don’t want that for you so my advice let’s think outside the box in terms of marriage what do we have a 60% divorce rate 80 and you know I love a divorce I do not because I don’t love love I love love I love people taking control of their life and 70% of divorces are initiated by women mhm mhm yeah because a man they’ll stay in it they’re getting laid they’re getting fed they’re stable cool the woman is like this is not working for me so knowing that divorce rate I and you know the example I’m going to give but I am going to give it if 70% of planes crashed it If 30% of planes crashed Would we not stop getting on planes and perhaps going back to the drawing board and being like could we build a better plane why aren’t we doing that with marriage we never think to do that we never think to do that it’s nope this is what it is this is what it is this is what it is a contract with the government a judge has to tell you you’re allowed to break up is this a joke how about this you go to lawyers get engaged get a ring plan a wedding do it don’t get legally married go to lawyers and have them draw up a contract you’re going to sign a contract with the government either way you’re going to sign a contract great you’re going to have a contract with each other not with the government you’re going to have a contract with each other delineating what the contract entails what you need to do to get out of the contract the longevity all the ins and outs you Hammer that out you walk down the aisle you vow before God and your friends you’re married you’re married Define this how you want maybe you don’t live together maybe you have two houses on the same block I have a guest house and I I have thought like with my last with my ex because that’s what he is now he’s a very independent person so am I like we are very much lone wolves um and I I kind of had it in my mind I’m like I could see him being in the guest house and he could like come here to the big house when we you know when we wanted our together time but we would have our own space to just be and again it’s not about like that’s his Palace no no it’s not it’s just it’s recognizing it is a way to physically embody and recognize the fact that that is still his he is still his own person I am still my own person and I might love you and my soul has known you in lifetimes before because I do believe that it has but this soul in this body in this today recognizes that you are a whole wild wonderfully made person and you might just need some space and that doesn’t mean you don’t love me and we don’t love each other it actually might mean the opposite what if it meant I respect you enough to know that just because we love each other doesn’t mean you absolutely annihilate your identity and solize into me entirely and there’s no going back and if you even hint that you need space it’s going to be a fight maybe you can go on a girl’s weekend to Sedona like once every two years cool but that’s about it that to me is not necessarily love that’s ownership that’s low self-esteem I I don’t know I just I don’t like that I I’m not saying that I would 100% never want to live with the the next person that I marry or partner up with who is hopefully the last person but I am open-minded I am I am trying to build a better mouse trap here and this takes a lot of balls a lot of balls because Society is always going to be like you guys don’t live together oh and listen I understand the logic behind that you learn things when you live with someone that you will never know dating them I don’t care if you spend six and a half nights a week at their house it is different it is different first of all when you maintain your own place for as long as possible let’s say you’re like we’re not living in the Guest House Fine for as long as possible you maintain again your optionality you maintain the ability to get in an actual fight because you can actually leave and have an actual shelter we’re cavemen we need to know like I have my own cave Wars are fought over land so when you maintain that pod of Independence you’re more likely to stand up for yourself to say things that bother you and I mean okay the downside is you are maybe missing out on data that you would gain if you lived together because listen I keep my house spotless when a guest is coming over when I live here and it’s just me I’m like like there’s just things you know it’s not filth but I there clutter accumulates and I also have an issue with closing drawers I did not know this about myself and I don’t know that this is a recent thing I’m like if I’ve been enjoy this my whole life no cuz my mom would have been on my ass about it and so is so would my husband but yeah I don’t I’ll open a drawer take the socks out and I will not close it it’s chronic and I’m it shocks me it would shock my boyfriend be like what is with you in these drawers girl I I would not have an answer I would not have an answer and that might drive someone absolutely insane and when you live with someone it takes on a different gravity because it’s like I’m going to have to deal with these drawers for the rest of my life and like the walls start closing in those wet towels on the floor are for life the way he leaves you know the the spots around the like the the grease around the the burners on the stove that’s for life just kidding I’m the one who does that like but if you have your own place it’s like okay that’s just a quirk and I don’t don’t have to deal with that for my the rest of my life I have the guest’s house or maybe I even have my master bedroom I don’t care how he keeps his bedroom I I’m not going in there I have my own space we have two masters in the house I have my own space that I can Retreat to for my own particular use we can come together when we need to come together but maybe that takes the pressure off maybe because I think a lot of people they become the bicker s like they start sniping each other and it’s things like the drawers the burners the towels what if that wasn’t a thing anymore ideally that would not be a thing because you have a maid you have a maid you know I think about the Kardashians it’s like wow their relationships must Thrive longer and better because there’s someone picking up after you you know you that cuts down on so much domestic Strife I think when my housekeeper comes I am like H like I’m just my best self in a clean house last for like 12 hours and I ruined it again but what if you could replicate that somehow what if you could try to just take that those little domestic needles in your skin and be like we don’t have to live like this we actually don’t have to live like this we can live in the same apartment building you can live in the guest house we can um split our time I don’t [Music] know what if we just what if we just expanded our mind a little bit what would your ideal ideal living scenario be mine honestly would be I think guest house cuz they’re on the property I can see I can see you who’s Jetta is in the driveway I’mma blow it up is that a pink sparkly license plate frame I’m setting that Jetta on fire not my guest house cuz I own it I don’t know are you like no I want to live with someone but I am definitely gang for the idea of taking separate vacations like yeah vacations together but also separate ones or I need my nights alone I don’t need to watch the same shows you’re watching no thanks is it as mild as I am going to book club every week I’m going to this I am having my girls nights you are not invited don’t don’t bug me don’t ask when I’m coming home don’t forget that you know me for four hours a week forget where is your sweet spot and or is it very extreme it’s like listen I don’t even need to live in the same town I don’t care if we’re long distance forever I can’t do that because I just need I’m a red-blooded American Girl I have needs but for people who aren’t maybe that suits you just fine have you worked out a situation that is atypical but really works for you I love hearing about these atypical scenarios I love it because I love being a Pioneer on these things and like I said building the better plane if anyone gets to live like this it’s us like it’s us we’re the elites we are we are we are the 1% of the 1% in terms of hotness yep perky titties yep glossy lips you know it high level cognition self-awareness Improvement mindset manifestation all of this no one is doing it like we are no one and no one is doing it as bad assly is that a word gracefully lovingly and with the most curiosity no one is doing it like us so guess what we get to be the inventors of the new way of living we get to be the architects of this so let’s build it how would you build it what would you do what would you do would you be a Perma fiance would you have the non legal marriage and work it out with lawyers are you very traditional you want a Catholic Church government contract living together I don’t know tell me and this is the thing there is no wrong answer that’s what’s amazing about it there’s no wrong answer whatever works for you and I I wish that that is the mindset everyone wouldn’t have but it’s like all right if this is what you want you want to be poly sounds like a horrible statistically it’s a horrible idea but cool like do you whatever if this works for you you want to have Sister Wives amazing everyone consenting I don’t care have one weird long giant kitchen for like 30 kids doesn’t bother me no skin off my back what would you do what do you think is going to happen with benefer I I hope that I hope things are good them I I root for them what celebrity couple do you root for like inordinately and like I said if you have stories of rekindled love where somebody both perhaps people needed to grow up get out of their own way a little bit I would love to hear it like I would really I would really love I’d really love to hear it thank you like I said Italy trips are live and available to book if you have come on a trip with me uh comment down below and tell people what it’s like you know I’m telling you if these trips weren’t amazing I wouldn’t keep doing them like it would just be such a headache for me to plan and go on um but they are so awesome so if you feel this voice in your mind it’s like it I’m going to go that is the right voice that is the right voice that is the voice so many girls on these trips have heard when they booked and they’re they look back and they’re like I am so glad I did this it’s so much more than travel it’s more than the appol spritzes it’s more than all the pictures although we’re going 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