Summer Walker shares her thoughts on the Megan Thee Stallion discourse via IG story : “Stop telling women to ‘pick better men’ “
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Summer Walker shares her thoughts on the Megan Thee Stallion discourse via IG story : “Stop telling women to ‘pick better men’ “
Posted by neoncolour
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see i get what she means but klay thompson’s previous gf accused him of cheating on her and had cheating rumors with a different ex gf which is why people say “pick better men”…
It’s both (bring on the downvotes). Men need to be better and stop lying like dogs about their intentions.
Women need to pick better and stop thinking that they’re gonna be the exception to DECADES of an established behavioral pattern.
Klay is a 40 y/o man that hasn’t been faithful in a single one of his prior relationships. A tiger doesn’t change its stripes, so quit volunteering as the guinea pig to test out whether he can be the man you want him to be. 🤷🏾♀️
I do wish people had a little tolerance for venting without being able to leave, as well. That’s another way that men’s bad behavior in relationships is blamed on women. I definitely understand being annoyed when a woman posts something awful her husband did and the next post is her defending him and saying the internet is wrong for supporting her but somehow that has become demanding women leave their spouses immediately or they’ll be bashed to hell by commenters for being stupid to stay.
It’s crazy to me that a mom can post like “I was groomed by this 40 year old man to have children at 19 and now that I’m 25 and he treats me terribly, I’m sad about my life and how I’m treated but don’t have the support system or means to leave him yet” and every comment will be like “then you deserve this! Let us know when you’re ready to leave him ✌🏻” / “we don’t want to hear it if you’re not going to leave” etc.
We can cut out the gender roles altogether and just say “pick better partners”. If someone gets caught cheating and it’s the first instance anyone knew of it then yea that’s super shitty.
But someone like Klay Thompson is a KNOWN cheater. There is no “revealing who they are” as oppose to “who they told you they were”. Klays history tells you who he is, after that it’s your choice.
I would argue they’re not “pretending to be someone they’re not”, they’re just operating from a base level of “I can do what I want”. most men who get into relationships and then cheat aren’t doing it because they don’t love or care for their partners, they truly do in their own fucked up little way, they just operate off of the belief that of course *they* can do whatever *they* want, they’re men and they’re cool and smart and their woman will just have to understand.
but I do think it’s disingenuous to tell women to “just pick better men” for exactly that reason. literally anyone you date can turn out to be a cheater. YOU, under the right circumstances, can turn out to be a cheater. many people have perfectly happy relationships for years and then one partner will be like “¯_(ツ)_/¯ gonna cheat now”. because it can be anyone. that’s not something to blame women for.
This is honestly how I would describe my own prior situation of being cheated on. I was sold someone that didn’t exist and it has led to years post-breakup of having diminished self-esteem, confidence and trust in people. F*** people like this. They don’t realize the pain they cause even long after their trifling ass was shown the door.
i think both points can coexist, the blame shouldn’t fall on women, but the “men are pretending” argument is harder to apply when there’s a pattern of cheating. it’s not something that tends to change suddenly.
Summer Walker is right. Anything else is just victim blaming and being presumptuous